Slavery Has Been Abolished, Or Has It?

Seriously people!
I have had enough, I am on the warpath.

People get it into your heads the following truths about domestic workers:1) THEY ARE NOT SLAVES (so working them from dawn until after midnight is a crime).

2) They have left their families and countries and come here not because they love us but because cruel necessity has forced them to do so. Respect that.
3) By law they are entitled to a day off, and no exceptions. If they do not get their day off they are entitled to tell the authorities.
4) When they are sick take them to a doctor, NO A PANADOL WILL NOT DO, get them checked.
5) Do not belittle or insult them, some may have better degrees than you do ladies, again they left their countries because there is no work for them.
6) Pay them their wages every month, and do not give the shit excuse that you are saving their money for them, they can manage their own finances, who died and made you god to tell them how to take care of it.
7) They have families to support again give them their money.
8) Where do you get off locking them in the house when you leave… WTF!
9) You are not better than them just because you employ them. You can bet that some of them have better education than you do in some cases but it is because there is no work in their country.
10) After 2 years they are entitled to a return ticket and a vacation in their country.
11) They are NOT animals, and you have no right to beat them.
12) You are responsible for feeding and clothing them, yes you have to feed them, if you are a fat cow on a diet that is not their concern you have to give them proper food, not tea and a slice of arabic bread for breakfast lunch & Dinner.
13) Sanitary napkins, tampax, shampoo, toothpaste, soap & Toilet paper are on you NOT them it is your duty to make sure that they have it.
14) Health care is on you too, dental medical and all. Or else how can you expect them to work efficiently if they are in constant pain and suffering.
15) Their residency, their work permit and all the official papers are also your responsibility, not theirs (FYI check out the laws for domestics you are responsible).
16) Do not let your children boss them around, if they want a glass of water, let your lazy brats get of their arse and go and get their own beverages, and do not allow them to keep on calling her, she has work to do and should be left in peace to do it.
17) If you want a nanny get a nanny but don’t expect them to bring up your children, that is also your responsibility.
18) Be respectful, be patient there is something called a language barrier and misunderstandings can and will happen, so no shouting and hysterical screaming at the girls.
19) In order for you to get the best out of your help then you should make them feel a bit of responsibility otherwise how would they feel as if they need to care.
20) Once again I repeat they are not your slaves, if you cannot afford to pay them, then do not get one and make her life hell. You learn how to take care of the house and that is that. Don’t get one and keep on promising to pay her and then cheat her out of her wages, remember she has mouths to feed too.
That said you will come across the thieves, the tramps, the troublemakers but that is life and that doesn’t make them all the same. Judge each case as it arises not all are the same.

I for one will never trust a Sri-Lankan after a couple of bad experiences, but that is me. My friends have some Sri-Lankans helping them out and they are angels. It goes across the board to all races and cultures so be aware and be patient.

I am not a human rights activist I am a human, and I believe that we should be our own conscience.
Unfortunately there are a lot of sick, mean-spirited, and psychotic people out there who are vicious, and should not be allowed to hire any domestics, and they have a track record of abuse and yet still they complain why their helpers have run away (after the 6th time )….


About descantia

A melting pot of contradictions! Artist, Designer (most media), Copywriter, Thespian, Chanteuse, Dancer, Performance artist, Make-up artist and so much more... The penultimate liberal hedonist with conservative leanings! Exacting, free, libertine with a Courtesan mentality! Honest, blunt, viciously unkind when dealing with fools, ingrates, liars, and any deceivers. Detests: Hypocrisy, Disloyalty, Infidelity, Stupidity, Anyone Devoid of Morals Ethics and decent manners and behaviour. Loves being a Snarky Grumpy Bitter Old Elitist!
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7 Responses to Slavery Has Been Abolished, Or Has It?

  1. kinzi says:

    God bless your warrior heart for women, Descantia. Well said. It is especially horrific that this is generally woman-on-woman oppression, and very much perceived high-caste on low-caste racism.

    (you don’t get out that chainsaw when you are on the warpath, do you?)

    • descantia says:

      THe Chainsaw is verbal most of the times, but every so often one does wish one could rip them physically to shreds! But that would be uncivilised! No? Or would it?

  2. mangatake says:

    Exactly! Thank you! I keep telling the people around me that but they all call me a naive idiot and accuse me of being out of touch with reality! They seem to completely miss the point that they are “hiring” help, regular people with real lives, instead of “acquiring” help.

    I love how you put it: “I am not a human rights activist I am a human, and I believe that we should be our own conscience.” Folks just think that they can check their conscience at the door when it comes to maids in our part of the world, and you see otherwise decent people act like real bastards. “But we gave her her own TV and she has Fridays off.” Really? So basically you’re saying that being stuck in her room or in the house all year long with nothing but her TV set and her chores to keep her occupied is enough to make her life complete? She should thank her lucky stars, is that it? I’m surprised half the maids don’t go bonkers and try to off their employers in their sleep. I’m sure I would if I were in their shoes!

    That’s probably the biggest problem with folks – they don’t put themselves in other people’s shoes. They get all scandalized when you point that out, as if you’re dissing their honor or something. Then they dredge up every bad experience their friend’s friend’s grandmother/neighbor/best friend had with her made who stole from her, let men into her house and got impregnated, or ate way more food than she’s entitled to (you know how it goes).

    I’d like to see human rights organizations putting more pressure on our countries to solve this problem. It’s just wrong. I’m glad I’m not the only person in Jordan who thinks that way, so kudos to you for this spot on post. You’ve made my day. [/end rant]

    • descantia says:

      No not a rant, you are voicing a very valid point and a take on the problem which is an epidemic!

      I salute you for standing up to your friends. I do the same.

      I have some friends love them to bits, but they don’t give their girls a day off, even though they treat them decently and are very kind to them. But… They do not let them have a day off. Even my uncle and his wife have that mentality that they will get into trouble if they get a day off.

      We have had a maid who stole thousands of JD’s from us but what to do we sent her off, and she had the nerve to ask us 5 years later if she could come and work for us again.. Yes everyone has a story.

      What I say to people who have had a bad experience is this: “So the Americans are right in considering every Arab a terrorist?” and when they say it is not the same, I say “You are wrong it is precisely the same!”

      • mangatake says:

        Very true, generalizations are pointless. Hired help need to be treated like every other type of employee; they should be respected, given their space, and made to understand that they have responsibilities as much as rights – and that they will be held accountable for their responsibilities just like everybody else. It doesn’t make sense to lock them up “just in case” they’re up to mischief.

        Prevalent mentalities take time to change, but I’m afraid it’ll take too long for it to happen here because people are simply too comfortable with the way things are. There’s no push, no catalyst, and it’s sad =/

  3. Travis Bickle (Omar) says:

    If only it was illegal in Jordan. Am I correct in saying that the police always take the arab’s side?

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